Midlife weight gain is common amongst women in their 40s and older. In fact, the average woman will gain about 15 pounds. Body image during midlife is complex and nuanced. Some women finally relax against society’s impossible standards. Whereas others really struggle, especially with weight gain. This life stage, typically spanning from the early 40s to early 50s, is marked by various physical, psychological, and social changes. Here are some key considerations regarding body image during midlife.
Midlife Physical Changes
The most common body changes affecting midlife women include weight gain, sagging skin, acne, and vaginal dryness. Midlife weight gain appears different from other types. Usually there is more weight around the middle, even in pear shaped women. Midlife is marked by perimenopause ( the prelude to menopause). Perimenopause is when our hormones start shifting, sometimes rather dramatically. Hormonal shifts cause a decrease in collagen which makes skin sag. Those same hormonal shifts can cause vaginal dryness and other pelvic floor changes. Lastly, midlife women lose muscle mass making our bodies appear more flabby.
Societal Pressures
Some women are more susceptible to societal expectations. Stereotypes about aging can contribute to negative body image during midlife. Cultural norms emphasize thinness and youthfulness. This may create feelings of pressure or inadequacy as individuals navigate the aging process. For other women, this time in life is very freeing. They feel like they have finally come into their own. Some women finally give up theses unrealistic standards and don;t mind midlife weight gain.
Self-Reflection and Identity
Midlife is a time of self-reflection and potential reassessment of one’s identity and priorities. This introspection can extend to how individuals view their bodies and the significance placed on appearance in relation to other aspects of life.
Physical Fitness and Health
Prioritizing physical health and fitness during midlife positively influences body image. Engaging in regular exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, and adopting healthy lifestyle habits contribute to overall well-being and a more positive self-perception. It is particularly important to do weight bearing exercises. This is because you lose muscle mass during this period.
Physical exercise may be less effective in terms of weight loss during midlife/perimenopause. However, it can improve mental health and body image.
Relationships and Intimacy
Changes in body image may affect individuals’ comfort with intimacy and relationships. Open communication with partners about these changes and fostering an environment of acceptance can strengthen emotional bonds.
Psychological Well-Being
Psychological well-being plays a crucial role in body image. Unfortunately, depression and anxiety are more common during this period. In fact, midlife women have up to two times the chance of developing a mental health compared to younger women. Individuals who cultivate a positive mindset, practice self-compassion, and prioritize mental health are more likely to navigate changes in body image with resilience.
Cultural Diversity and Individual Experiences
Cultural backgrounds and individual experiences greatly influence body image perceptions. Different cultures may have varied views on aging and beauty standards, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and embracing diversity.
Media Influence
We all know that social media does not help body image! Be sure to follow accounts that actually help your mood. Mindfulness can help you determine how you feel. Better yet, stop scrolling!
Positive Aging Narratives
Shifting societal narratives around aging is empowering. Celebrating positive aging narratives, embracing the wisdom that comes with experience, and challenging ageist stereotypes contribute to a more inclusive and affirming perspective on midlife.
Seek Support
For individuals struggling with body image concerns during midlife, seeking support from mental health professionals, support groups, or trusted friends and family members can be beneficial. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore and address these feelings.
Ultimately, navigating body image during midlife involves embracing the inherent changes that come with aging, fostering self-acceptance, and prioritizing holistic well-being over societal expectations. Developing a positive relationship with one’s body can contribute to a more fulfilling and satisfying experience during this life stage.
About the author: Sharon P. Fisher, PMHNP-BC, is the founder of Nurtured Wel LLC, a boutique women’s mental health practice, serving all of Maryland.